Imagine there are three large jars in front of us on our kitchen bench. Outcomes you seek are to be placed in only one of the three jars marked:
1. Outcomes we Control
2. Outcomes we Influence
3. Outcomes we Hope for
It turns out that we actually control very few outcomes. We spend endless hours agonizing over trying to place many outcomes in the control jar. It is terribly unfair to ourselves and leads to unhappiness, anxiety and even depression through setting unrealistic expectations.






